Top Grandparenting Tips
You’re the support crew, not the coach
Back the parents’ rules on screens, bedtime and treats — even if you’d do it differently. Undermining them is the fastest way to lose access.
Give time, not stuff
Kids remember the fishing trip and the pancakes, not the toy. It’s also easier on the bank balance.
Wait to be asked for advice
“Would you like a hand with that?” lands far better than “In my day we…”.
Get up to date on safety
This has genuinely changed since you raised kids — safe sleep (babies on the back, no bumpers or loose bedding) via Red Nose, car seat rules via Kidsafe, online rules and safety for the older grandkids via eSafety. It’s worth 10 minutes of reading.
Be the story keeper
You’re the only one who knows where the family came from. Tell them about the family boat trip, the old farm, their dad at age six. Kids who know their family story are more resilient.
Say no when you need to
Regular babysitting is a gift, not an obligation. Being honest about your limits now prevents resentment later — and burnt-out grandparents doesn’t help anyone. However, being flexible and adapting to changing schedules and preferences can also help.
Get involved
Get involved in their world by attending their sports, events and school activities, either in person or virtually.
Close the distance
If they’re interstate, book a regular video call — same time each week. Read a picture book over the screen or post a letter. Kids love getting real mail. It’s also good to embrace technology to bridge the distance gap and stay connected with your grandkids.
Teach and lead by example
Baking, gardening, casting a line, fixing a bike. One-on-one time doing something real beats an afternoon on the couch. While also setting your best example of positivity, values, and good habits.
Don’t play favourites
Kids notice everything. Equal attention, equal enthusiasm — especially with step-grandkids or a child who has special needs or requires more support.
Be supportive
Offer consistent support and encouragement in all aspects of your grandchildren’s lives. Be patient and understanding. Leave your judgement and expectations at the door.
Look after yourself
Stay active, eat healthy, maintain regular health checks, have friends and hobbies. The best thing you can give them is a grandparent who is healthy, happy and can keep up with grandparenting adventures.
Enjoy the journey
Most importantly cherish each moment and the special bond you are creating with your grandchildren.
For Australian-specific information on everything from grandparent visitation to childcare, raisingchildren.net.au is the government-backed parenting site and has a dedicated grandparent’s section. If you’re raising grandchildren full-time, check Services Australia — there’s financial support you may be entitled to.
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